You are welcome. I'm sure others will add to the thread shortly. A great group here even if we don't always agree on everything
The Mini, if I'm recalling correctly, uses LEDs as opposed to a gauge or digital read out. I think you should be okay but can the calibration be checked? Bear in mind the accuracy on meters is less when you are near the end limits, in this case 6% and lower. Temperature and relative humidify should be taken, at the floor level, so we can determine if you are at equilibrium with your environment. For 5% MC, at 70 degrees F, your Rh would be about 22.5%! That seems awfully low for the Midwest in the summer, even with AC running. A wordy way of saying I'm not comfortable with your readings... You are correct in wanting the subfloor and flooring within 2% of each other. You fall into 2 areas where 2% is needed: an exotic and a plank.
I'm a fan of Aquabar, which is an asphalt sandwiched with Kraft paper. A good perm rating for your use and the asphalt they use will seal around your fastener perforations.
The NOFMA installation standards used to be available on the net, but as NOFMA is now a part of NWFA. NWFA does not post this info free on the net. Plank floors (anything over 3 1/4 inch wide) calls for Fasteners 1-3" at the ends and every 6-8" along the planks. Face nailing should be every 10-12". With the subfloors you describe, 2" fasteners should be best.
I was referring to the rooms perimeters. You will need a full 3/4 inch so wood base and base/shoe or quarter round is usual.
Construction sounds fine but an unsupported span dimension would be helpful to verify deflection will not be problematic. By all means, install perpendicular to your joist directions.
You want to have the subfloor flat to 1/8" in 6' or 3/16" in 10'. A 10' section of pipe is great for verifying this. I use taper gauges but most folks don't have them (they are a bit pricey if you don't use them regularly). A small steel ruler will work fine for measuring flatness variations. The rulers are less than $3 at any hardware store.
If your largest room is 16 X 20, you should not need to start in the center and install in 2 directions. This makes it easier for you.
If you split more than a quarter of a tongue off, I would pull the piece and use it for fills. To be completely comfortable, you may want to cull them for even less damage. A bit of a catch 22: you won't know you have a tough plank until you fasten it and then it is too late to drill and hand nail... You will want to look at each piece as you rack it and cull any the have insect holes, knots or any other visible imperfection at the plank edge or in the tongue. Bear in mind Jatoba has frequent cross grain which may not be readily visible. Makes it a bear on occasion.
You couldn't have chosen a nice simple 2 1/4 oak strip for your first big one?